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Letter to A Young Lady in Her Early Twenties


Your early twenties are for self-discovery! I think I am qualified to write this letter as I am a year older and wiser,  my early twenties were very adventurous.  A popular quote by Massy Arias says;

“Appreciate every day that you’re alive because being alive is a luxury that many don’t get to experience for long.”

Your best is yet to come implies to my birthday last week Friday (June 26th ) It was my best birthday so far and a very emotional one too. I started crying because I was showered with so much love. Looking back at my life and journey so far, I am inspired to write a letter to my younger self or a  young lady in her early twenties.

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Dear young lady,

How are you doing today?

I know you are somewhere around the world trying to figure out your life, you are probably wondering what the future holds for you. I want to encourage you to relax and stop stressing.  Worrying about the future can only make you develop an anxiety disorder. Everything will eventually fall in place, all you need is to do is to-

Pray and Plan.

So, here I am, a self-proclaimed “Diamond in the Rough.” I don’t always have it all together and I’m still being polished under the heat and pressure for a little while longer, but every day I’m getting there!

Follow me as I list out some pointers that can help you live your best life.

  • FIND SOMETHING YOU ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT AND STAY ON IT UNTIL YOU BECOME A PRO: I spent my early twenties experimenting and finding my passion, I had an interest in so many things but my passion was hidden inside my interest. After attempting so many careers, I recently discovered what I want to do for the rest of my life. when I was younger, I kept on trying and didn’t give up until my passion found me. if you haven’t found your passion just keep your hands busy ( Read more on finding your passion
  • FEEL FREE TO WALK AWAY FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS: If you ever find yourself in a relationship that is draining you, you have the right to walk away from it. Sometimes, the relationship can be with family members, friends, or colleagues at work.
  • PRACTICE SELF-LOVE:  Loving yourself is the greatest love of all in Whitney Huston’s voice. The way you treat yourself will determine how you will be treated by others. Love yourself and never settle for less.
  • DEFINE CORE VALUES: As you grow older, you need to define what your core values are. Life and circumstances will test those values and that will determine the kind of person you will eventually become. Know your core values and stand up for them. if you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything.
  • DONT COMPARE YOUR JOURNEY: Your life is completely different from everyone else, always remember. Please don’t compare your life to your best friend or sister. Some of them will get married early, get a good job before you, sad truth some may not live long so why compare?
  • START SAVING: Thankfully, I learned how to save and manage my resources from my mom, there were times in my life that I had to invest in a project with my savings and it was life-saving.
  • LEARN A SKILL: I spent my early 20s learning so many things especially the skills that made me employable in the labor market. If you need to take online classes to develop your skill, please do.
  • INVEST IN MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS: Find people that can stay with you in both thick and thin. You can meet them anywhere but prayerfully select your friends. You also have to be a good person to meet good people.
  • PRACTICE KINDNESS: Kindness is an investment that will always come back to you. Be the change you want to see in the world.
  • STAY AWAY FROM BAD FRIENDS: Remember what your mom told you about bad friends, it also applies to adulthood because you are the company you keep.  Select friends who are purposeful, vision-oriented, and intelligent. Don’t be found in the midst of friends who spend their youth slaying on social media at all costs. There is more to life than social media.
  • GIVE YOURSELF TIME: As you grow older, you will start making more money, you will become wiser in your decisions and you will learn some life lessons that I didn’t state here if you fall down, stand up and keep moving until you win. Move at your own pace and be kind to yourself.

I hope you take these pointers to heart and live the best life in your early twenties.

Lots of Love, I see you growing into a happy and successful woman ( Adamas Woman)

From Ada.

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